AA, been enjoying your posts! I really like the idea of “radical acceptance.” Hoping it can apply to other relationships as well. In my case, my elderly parents. My mother died a few months ago at 92. She was not very nice to me and, even recently, deliberately mean. My dad still alive at 92 but requiring round-the-clock care. Ditto with him. Trying to “love” him and enjoy his company while he’s still alive. But often not feeling it. These complicated relationships take up too much brain space and I’m eager to move on. Working on it.
Thanks for that! And yes, I also had to learn to "radically accept" my mother and her actions towards me - she was a malignant narcissist. It's hard not to dwell on hurts - like that little bump in your mouth that your tongue keeps touching over and over. But once we learn to accept and move on, life opens up!
AA, been enjoying your posts! I really like the idea of “radical acceptance.” Hoping it can apply to other relationships as well. In my case, my elderly parents. My mother died a few months ago at 92. She was not very nice to me and, even recently, deliberately mean. My dad still alive at 92 but requiring round-the-clock care. Ditto with him. Trying to “love” him and enjoy his company while he’s still alive. But often not feeling it. These complicated relationships take up too much brain space and I’m eager to move on. Working on it.
Thanks for that! And yes, I also had to learn to "radically accept" my mother and her actions towards me - she was a malignant narcissist. It's hard not to dwell on hurts - like that little bump in your mouth that your tongue keeps touching over and over. But once we learn to accept and move on, life opens up!
I've been trying to find something I recently read on forgiveness that resonated with me. It's not this, but this is interesting too: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/08/apology-contrition-responsibility-benefits/675025/